Self-Esteem and Confidence

The importance of positive self-esteem

Self-esteem is your opinion about yourself, involving both beliefs and feelings about your self-worth, strengths and weaknesses, and how you think are perceived by others. Without a strong sense of self-worth it is difficult to take risks and make decisions needed to lead a meaningful and rewarding life. Good self-esteem is about having a good relationship with your internal self. Low self-esteem may lead to feelings of depression, anxiety, or anger.

Symptoms of low self-esteem you may experience include:

  • Feeling ashamed or depressed
  • Having a negative view of life
  • Feeling overwhelmingly self-conscious, and avoiding socialising or other opportunities
  • Putting yourself down or criticising yourself often
  • Feeling guilt or responsibility for events or situations beyond your control.

What causes low self-esteem?

It’s not uncommon for people to feel low self-esteem and confidence at some points in their life, particularly after a major setback, such as loss of a job or a relationship breakdown. Self-esteem often reduces during periods of high stress or when things aren’t going as planned.

Causes for low self-esteem might include:

  • Difficulty adjusting to setbacks or failure in your life
  • Struggling with finances, parenting, health, or addiction
  • Experiencing bullying
  • Surviving an abusive relationship or childhood
  • Having experienced trauma, possibly including physical, emotional, or sexual abuse.

How Seed Psychology can help you

Our psychologists will help you to identify unhelpful patterns of thinking and behaviour, and support you to develop new skills and coping strategies. We can help you to build assertiveness, confidence, resilience, and increase your awareness of your own strengths. In addition, many people find that therapy builds their self-compassion, allowing them to view their own accomplishments and failures more realistically and less judgmentally.